It took me a while to decide what to write this blog post about and I finally decided to go with the topic of long distance relationships. I chose this particular topic as I know someone personally who’s in one and thought I would give my views on this topic having observed it and also from my own perspective.
New age technology and social media have made if far more easy for individuals to connect with one and other,and maintain a relationship through these means regardless of ones location. You are able to not only talk via the phone but also through video calls or messaging services.
Long distance relationships just like most things in life have both their pros and cons. I will not be able to cover all but will take a look at a few. Starting with the positives:
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
We have all heard the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and this is definitely true. We miss those that are away from us for as little as one week so one can only imagine how heightened it will be over a longer period. Little things such as kissing or even holding hands that some of us take for granted will mean so much. Missing someone makes it more exciting when you finally get to reunite, time becomes more precious.
Traveling is always fun especially if it involves you traveling to another country. If that country is hot even better right?. Another bonus is also stacking up on your air miles which will give you great rewards.
There is so much to explore in a place you are not from. Sites to see, activities to get involved in and food to indulge in and this makes a long distance relationship perfect. You can both experience new things together.
Although I have visited the positives there are also barriers that some may describe as negatives.
Time difference can prove to be a problem especially if it’s a big one, which means for instance your night time is your partners morning . A clash in schedule will mean you may be available to talk at a particular time whereas your partner may be working at the same time or vice versa. This will result in a lack of communication. However where there’s a will there’s a way.
Communication is key in any relationship regardless of the distance between you and your partner. However It can become more challenging to communicate effectively when you’re in different parts of the world. Disagreements may not get resolved as quickly as they should as misinterpretation can occur over the phone or via messages.
A face to face argument can be resolved far more quickly. When the dust settle couples are able to kiss and make up reassuring their other half that all is well. This can not be done in a long distance relationship. Some could argue that this is a positive, living further apart means one is able to have space and a cool off after an argument.
Financial strain can take its toll on a long distance relationship with traveling to and from a particular destination. This could result in one or both individuals not being able to see the other as frequently as they may like or may have previously discussed.
There are always going to be individuals around you such as your family and friends who have a view on long distance relationships. They may therefore try to discourage you but ultimately it’s down to you and how strongly you feel for the person in question and wether you see a future with them.
Personally I have always commended those that are able to be in a long distance relationship. It takes hard work ,discipline, trust and commitment to make it work which are great attributes.
Many are not open to the idea of a long distance relationship, perhaps due to the effort that has to go into it or not being able to physically be with their partner.
However, I do believe that one should be open to the idea and not write it off completely. We do not know what the future holds for us which means the person you’re destined to be with could be on the other side of the world. If you meet someone but circumstances means you have to be apart does that mean the end for you both? Should that be a barrier?
“Distance means so little when someone means so much.” ~ Tom McNeal
Thanks for reading, I would love to know your views on long distance relationships.