(Guest post i done for The90sbaby show) Should your  other half post you on social media??

​Should your partner post you on social media? 

Do you care whether your other half posts you on social media or is it really not a big deal to you? Some people love the whole privacy thing whilst others find it suspect that their partner refuses to show them to the world.

Okay so there is two sides to every argument, on one side it’s just social media where you have people following you, most of which you don’t even know in person if were being honest. So maybe just maybe your partner does not want to put you on there for the world to see as it’s simply not their business.

We also have to remember that when people see your relationship on display on sites such as Instagram and Facebook they do tend to start being nosey and trying to get all up in your business. 

If you put your relationship out there, your followers start to feel like their automatically part of it and can start throwing out unwanted opinions. As sad as it sounds social media has ruined relationships in the past.

So is it best to just keep your private life private? We have all heard the saying “A private life is a happy life” right?

On the other hand, not posting your other half could lead to other issues such as your partner believing you don’t want to show them off, which I think relates to self-esteem. 

I think a lot of the reasons behind a person wanting and expecting to be posted has a lot to do with them feeling accepted and it gives them a sort of ego-boost. 

We all want to feel like our partner wants to show us off myself included. So do we really want our partner to post us on social media for the right reasons or is it simply to feed our own insecurities, it’s something we need to think about.

Secondly, avoiding posting your other half could also lead to them believing that you don’t want anyone to know you’re in a relationship and that you want to appear single to the cyber world. This could be far from the truth but is a conclusion that many could form.

The reality is that if followers of your different social media platforms see no trace of your other half, it could lead to them assuming you’re available as that’s what they want to believe. If there is no evidence to suggest otherwise they will run with that assumption, and that’s basically when they start jumping in your DM’s! Hell some thirsty individuals jump in your DM’s when they know you’re taken for crying out loud. 

My opinion is this, I don’t believe I need to post my partner on a regular basis and vice versa but I do believe people should know he exists, so a post here and there at least is reasonable.

We all tend to say things such as its only social media it’s not real life but its apparent daily that these media platforms are becoming more and more part of our reality and people tend to form an image of you based on what you portray on these sites.

Furthermore, I definitely believe that we should not place so much significance on this. I’ve since come to the realization that being posted on social media for the cyber world to know how much my partner loves me and wants to show me off is not my reality. If I know that he loves me and he is proud to have me as a partner why does showing me/us together on social media matter so much.

To conclude, we all have our own views in regards the importance of this topic. If you genuinely have concerns about why your partner does not post you, then a conversation should be had. However it should definitely not be a defining factor in your relationship. 

As I stated above people should know that your partner exist for the simple fact that I feel it leaves room for no unnecessary assumptions. Posting photos continuously and drowning your timeline could appear as attention seeking and like your seeking validation from others, so there should be a balance. However it’s about what works for different relationships, I just don’t believe it’s a make or break situation.

What are your views on this topic? 

Comment below i would love to know

I previously done this post for the 90s baby show make sure you CHECK them out at 90sbabyshow.com

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11 thoughts on “(Guest post i done for The90sbaby show) Should your  other half post you on social media??

  1. alfieciru says:

    I like this topic. Personally I don’t like posting the people I date on social media because of the stress of taking their photos down after a breakup which makes everyone know what is happening in my life. I prefer my privacy…

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  2. Eliza says:

    I personally don’t post at all on FB (and I don’t use any other social media platform) so I would feel if I suddenly posted too many things about my relationship, it just would be showing off and not myself. I don’t feel any particular need to show others what I do or what I look like, may it be by myself or in a relationship.
    In my last relationship I remember this particular date that I went on, at this really fancy restaurant. My ex was sitting across from me, and he took a photo, and then he must have posted in on FB. And for the next ten minutes he was checking his phone, while I was sitting down completely bored and annoyed. Later when I told him about it, he told me he’d wanted to post a photo on me because he was proud of me (maybe he meant proud of HAVING me?) and that he wanted to show me off. That personally disgusted me. I guess it could be meant as a compliment, but I am not a trophy.
    Generally I think I prefer no posting at all, or if the person wants to post, they should really ask for permission. The people who should know about the relationship would know without any social media posts anyway, and the rest of the world doesn’t really give a damn. So why bother with posts?

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  3. chocolate.💫 (@Naturally_She) says:

    I’m a pretty private person so I prefer to keep my relationships sacred for the most part. But I do agree, people may assume you’re single if you never post photos of a significant other. It’s silly but people really do assume things about your personal life based on social media nowadays. So we have to be careful of what we’re posting and where.

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    • TinzRant says:

      Thanks so much for sharing your perspective on this. I totally agree with the points you made,people.are fast to make an assumtion of social media which is ridiculous but true and something that frequently happens

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  4. Dream Peddler says:

    Great post! I personally don’t like to share my personal pics online.. and unless it is absolutely necessary, is rather not even show myself or anyone I know in the pics I upload.. Privacy concerns as well as the fact that I’d like people to stay out of my personal life and not get off on my life..

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