We all have our relationship deal breakers, a common one is whether or not you would date or begin a relationship with a woman or man with a child. The stereotype often associated with this scenario is not wanting to deal with the baby mama/daddy drama.
Whilst some people are up for dating a man/woman with a child,others are far from up for it. Some common responses to this topic are:
“I want my first child to be their first child” or “I don’t want to play step parent to another man/woman’s child”. So let’s look into this further. I totally understand where people are coming from with the whole I want my first to be their first. You want to share that experience together and if they already have a child it kind of takes the excitement away is what your probably thinking which could be true, but at the same time you never know till you’re in the situation because let’s face it, this is all based on assumption and not facts.
Secondly some people have the mindset that automatically they will be playing this child’s other parents role forgetting one important thing this child has a mum/dad already.There’s of course situations for e.g. were the dad is non-existent basically a waste of space/dead beat. The woman may want you to be a role model for her child but she knows you’re not the dad and doesn’t expect you to be.(Well maybe some do expect you to be, different people have different mindsets)
Moreover if the relationship is long term and you do end up marrying this person with a child for instance, you will be a step parent and will therefore play a huge role in the child’s life. If you genuinely believe you are not up for the task you should not waste the other persons time and get involved with them to begin with.
To conlcude everyone has a preference in regards to this topic. Although some are comfortable getting involved with someone with a child others would prefer not to, it’s all comes down to the individual.
However, One question I will end with is this. If you find a person that ticks all the boxes, I mean a beautiful/handsome person with the personality and brains to match would you give that up because the person had a child? Would you go with the flow and see where it goes? Or would you avoid the scenario completely?
I would love to know your views on this topic. Would you date someone with a child?